How often do you feel anxious or depressed?
Do you wonder why you feel tired all the time?
Is your mind constantly overthinking everything?
Hi, I’m Jim, and I want to help you stop feeling anxious and depressed.
Keep reading to find out more about my Free Online Wellbeing Course.
Why am I anxious and depressed all the time?
Of course, it’s no fun when you’re stressed and unhappy. You can’t sleep, or you wake up sluggish.
I’ve no doubt you’ve asked yourself, why me? What’s caused me to develop anxiety and depression?
Many people I see for therapy talk about having a normal childhood. They can’t think of why they suffer from mental health problems.
And there aren’t always clear reasons to explain why you overthink. In fact, it’s natural for all people to feel sad, scared, angry, guilty or ashamed.
People are complex
If you’re anything like me, you have more than one way of avoiding stress. In some situations, I am overly rational. While in others, I want to numb my fears by eating sugary snacks.
It’s natural and human to push away fear, sadness, hurt and anger. We don’t relish embarrassment, guilt or shame much, either. We have so many tricky emotions; it’s no wonder so many people suffer from long-term anxiety and depression.
How do you stop anxiety and depression?
In all the years I’ve practised psychotherapy, and after having helped 1000s of people with their mental health, I’ve learned one important lesson.
People rarely think themselves into feeling better. You can rewire your brain, change your personality, and reframe your thinking, but it all amounts to very little if you don’t change what you do.
If you want something different, you have to do something different.
But do what?
Unfortunately, we are not perfect. While we can accomplish great things, we have flawed minds. Our thinking gets us into trouble.
We have evolved to be better safe than sorry. Naturally, when encountering a threat, we run, fight or hide. We try to find safety to make our fears disappear.
People learn to fear many things, including their emotions. We fear feeling sadness, shame and hurt. We worry we’ll be overwhelmed by our feelings.
Many of us learn to underestimate our ability to tolerate distress. We get caught up trying to eliminate uncertainty, which doesn’t work.
Former US President Benjamin Franklin famously said: “There are two certainties in life, death and taxes.”
I’d add a third: uncertainty.
It isn’t easy accepting we can’t completely control our health, finances and security. You can’t protect your children and loved ones from harm 24/7.
To stop anxiety and depression, you must first realise that avoidance worsens it.
Before you decide whether or not to sign up for my free online wellbeing course, consider this common pitfall.
Avoidance leads to life-limiting decisions. You stop seeing friends and withdraw from family. You reduce your physical activity for fear of feeling worse.
It’s easy to get stuck in your head worrying about the future or dwelling on the past; what went wrong? Why am I like this?
Pain and suffering bring your attention inward, so your empathy diminishes. Your enthusiasm for growth fades away, and you get caught up in the same routines.
- Acknowledge that avoidance makes you more anxious and depressed.
- Identify the key activities you’ve stopped.
The next step forward is to identify the key activities you stopped.
What is a key activity?
First of all, here is a little back story. In 2008, The New Economics Foundation completed a project involving many of the world’s leading researchers and scientists to ask them: What actions significantly impact human health and well-being?
They analysed their answers and identified five specific activities. If undertaken every day, these five actions will optimise your mental health. They will benefit you and your family.